If he decides to leave, he is in the driver's seat -- he has very specific reasons why he wants to get out of this thing and move on with his life, and it's doubtful that he'd ever consider taking her back.
But if she decides to bolt, it's a totally different story. She can leave him a bewildered emotional wreck, crying in his beer and wondering just what the hell happened.
Many people who try and get back with their ex partners do so while they are still in a state of emotional turmoil and may not have given themselves a fair opportunity to clarify in their own minds what it is that they really want and whether their ex partner may be wanting the same thing. After all, break-ups occur for a reason (or reasons). If the causes of the break-up are still present and raw for either one or both partners then you could very well be wasting your time (and that of your ex partner’s) in attempting a reconciliation.
So before you leap without looking, it's wise to take a breath, examine the reasons your relationship fell apart, and ask yourself, "Do I really want to take her/him back?" Take the time to examine your own motives. Why would you want to take her/him back? Do you truly care for her/him? Or is it because you're lonely, or afraid you'll never meet anybody else?
This brings us back to the issue at hand, is it right to get back with your ex ?
Well i think getting back always depends on the resolution of the initial reason for breaking up. If those issues haven't been addressed and two exes get back together,then i guess its doomed to fail again... I saw this happen on gossip girl,no real life experience x_x
ReplyDeletewell, i think its right to get back if the relationship spanned over two years , i dnt belive in break up like that ......
ReplyDeleteget back for what, what is over is over.. oshi!
ReplyDeletei dnt think it is right to get back, you left for a reason, dont think things have changed, its the same person , just older.
ReplyDeletemy ex should see this post, so he'll know that once an orange has been sucked completely, it has nothing else to offer..
ReplyDeletethought this line was meant to be said by boys
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ReplyDeleteI think I inspired this post...x_x
ReplyDeleteAnyway, if the love is mutual, then there shouldn't be any issue that can't be fixed but for selfish reasons on either part...
Breaking up in the first place is a whole lot (to some people). I think once you have broken up, going back will just be a repetition of what happened......or worse!!
Naaaaay mehn,buh it actually depends on wah led to d break up and d typef person. Make up to break up again is shitty.
ReplyDeleteI vote nay, its not necessary, life is about change and moving. Or what is the sense is repeating a class in school, makes no sense. Moving on the best. Going back should not be an option
ReplyDeleteTried this b.s with my ex, shit ddnt work out, even left me ina worse shape than before, he ddnt change, he thought he would but he didn't .
ReplyDeleteI dnt think its advisable, some guys want to get back for revenge or smfn. Makes no sense . Run!
ReplyDeleteI don't think ts a bad idea, I went back to my ex, and we'v bn dating eversince. I might be the exception, but really, I belive in whatever works personally. Learning from other people's experiences is ok, but its not totally effective.
ReplyDeleteyou should think of why you left in the first place, partners usually tend to get back because they feel lonely and all and just rush back into it without thinking or sorting out the problem that lead to the "end" at first. but still on still naaaaaayyy!
ReplyDeletemehn, i think shit happens yeah and "breakups" are usually decisions taken because one was "too angry" or "didn't understand" the situation. the one that called it off has thought carefully or has forgiven the partner that defaulted or they both decide to settle their differences, yes they can get back.
ReplyDeleteMy ex and I broke up, buh we still used to hook up regularly. Because yh, we had that soft spot for each oda n'all, then he asked me out again, I said yes, but we found out later that apart from the sex, the relationship was dead, we wernt talkn n all. So from my experience, I dnt think its right to go back to your ex. So 'nay'
ReplyDeletenayyyyyyy! enough said.
ReplyDeleteOf cz nt, neva go bk
ReplyDeleteI dnt fink derz a definite ansa 4dis..i fink its basically if y'll cn wrk stuff out..until ur in d shoes u rili wont knw..i fink its nt wrng if u both knw y ur gttn bck n redy 2 wrk on ur faults.
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